Enjoyment Factor

Yes, you might have to force yourself to be more giving in the oral department, but if that lack of enjoyment is apparent, you may as well not even bother to go through with it. If your partner senses that you don’t like heading downtown, they are not going to be able to fully enjoy it. Sure, they might get to the end of the line, but they will soon stop requesting oral action, and they might just start losing interest in your physical relationship all together. Lose your inhibitions and remind yourself that oral pleasure is about you controlling the situation. It does not have to be a degrading experience. If you think he might be dirty, take a sexy bath with him. The more enjoyment you show (without being ridiculous), the more he will enjoy it too. Moans, “mmmms,” smiles and steamy looks will let him know that you lavish being the boss of his member, and you’ll treat him right.

Product To Try:

Succulent Blossom $32  #10710
Soft, Stretchable Masturbation Sleeve
I know it will shock you to learn that men like to masturbate.  This is a masturbation sleeve.  It completely stretches and has ribs inside so it feels like a woman’s vagina.  This and some lube is great for the nights when you don’t want to and he won’t take know from an answer.  BUT, its also one of the best couples toys I know of.  Most men are completely obsessed by deep throat blow jobs and most women want nothing to do with it.  Here’s a way that everyone can get exactly what they want.  First, you start with a really great tasting lubricant.  Get him all nice lubed up and place some lubricant on the inside of the Blossom.  Put the Blossom on him everywhere you put your hand it will will feel like he’s in your mouth.  All you need to do is put your mouth on the very end, he gets his deep throat blowjob, you’ve been licking on a lollipop.  If you pull it up and pinch it closed right before he comes, he’ll never know you didn’t swallow it.  Or hold it tight at the base and pull on the Blossom, it stretches and creates a vacuum.  Guys really like this.  For those of you who sleep with men whose penises are too long for your vagina, if you put the Blossom on first, the part of the penis covered by the Blossom will feel like he’s already inside you.  He won’t thrust so hard but if he does, the Blossom collapses and will give you an extra inch to inch and one half.  This is the only toy I sell that you can’t purchase unless you also buy a cleaner.  One or two washes in soap will completely destroy it.  Please make sure that you only use warm to cool water to rinse and once its dry you keep it in its own separate bag.

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The G-Spot and female ejaculation

Techniques For Stimulating G-Spot
Lie back with your knees pressed up to your chest. In this position, your vaginal depth will shorten
and even small fingers should be able to reach the G-spot With a partner, lie on your side with one
leg drawn up to your chest as your partner enters you from the rear. He should be able to hit the
spot.  The G-spot responds to pressure rather than to touch. Gently stroking is not likely to get any results. It’s more like massaging a pea under a mattress – one has to compress the flesh to find it
Insert fingers and bend them gently up, around and behind the pubic bone. Beyond the rather rough-surfaced tissue immediately behind her pubic bone, your fingertips will encounter a very soft, smooth area. Go very slowly and let her tell you what she feels as you explore the smooth area, which will feel to you like the inside of a very slippery mitten. When you straighten your fingers and reach further inside, you’ll encounter a hard, rubbery structure that feels like an erect nipple pointing south. This is her cervix. The G-spot is somewhere just his side of the cervix, about an inch beyond the mitten, in the flesh immediately in front of the vagina.  Imagine you’re holding a tennis ball on those two of three inserted fingers. An area about the size of a grape in the center of the tennis ball is what you’re trying to reach. It can be anywhere along that two-or-three inch long area between the pubic bone and the cervix. Explore slowly, allowing for feedback front he woman – let her guide your fingers with her words if she can feel the stimulation. The G-spot responds to pressure rather than to touch. Gentle stroking is not likely to find it It’s more like massaging a pea under a mattress – one has to compress the flesh to find it.  When you reach in from the front with the woman on her back, the heel of your hand is over her clitoris while your fingers hook around her pubic bone. Pull upwards, as if you’re trying to lift her off the bed. Do this with the same sort of rhythm you’d use fucking, and keep your fingers hooked, so they press deep into the tissue. Once you know where it is you can try using your penis on it, but for good G-spot orgasm, she may prefer your hand. In face-to-face intercourse, the penis may not stimulate the spot enough to do any good, although some positions, such as the one where the women draws her knees close to her chest, may increase the changes for a G-spot orgasm.
Female Ejaculation
While all women have a G-spot, it has been estimated between 10% and 40% of women are capable
of ejaculation. The G-spot need not be stimulated for ejaculation to occur, but most women say that
their first ejaculation experience came from massaging their G-spot. The response varies from a
light sprinkle to a huge gush. I have experienced women who gushed huge amounts of fluid 10 feet
out.  Researches have found that although many women feel a slight need to urinate right before ejaculation, the fluid is definitely not urine. Nor does it come from the Bartholin gland which produces a milky, odorless secretion that helps lubricate the vagina when sexually aroused.
Today we now know that the difference between women who squirt and those that don’t is in the number and size of their pa ri urethra I glands. They are analogous to the hundreds of tiny glands that constitute the male’s prostate gland and are responsible for 15% to 50% of the fluid a man ejaculates.  The myths that female ejaculation is the result of poor bladder control, or excess secretion which sweats from the vaginal walls and pools in the back of the vagina to squirt out during the strong muscle contractions of orgasm, have been proven wrong. For decades many women felt it dreadfully abnormal and tried to hide or avoid it Physicians in their ignorance tried to cure it. By questioning many women, researchers have established that about one woman in five ejaculates (through her urethra rather than her vagina), some of the time but not always. The stimulation of the G-spot produces both her ejaculation and her deep uterine contractions.
Besides the famous study of Whipple and Perry of Dr. Ernest Grafenberg’s 1950 article about the spot, in Nova Scotia researcher Ed Belzer explored the chemical composition of female ejaculate. In Florida Helen Robinson and Sharon Pietranton worked with groups of ejaculating women. At first American gynecologists, routinely trained not to sexually stimulate their patients, were astonished that Dr. Grafenberg was on such sensual terms with his. Generations of gynecologists have tied to cope with “hypersecretors” blaming it on poor bladder control.  “Women’s response to direct stimulation of the G-spot is identical to the response of males when their prostate is stimulated,” Perry and Whipple observed. The first few seconds of stimulation produces a strong feeling that they have to urinate. This feeling taste for two to ten seconds, maybe longer, before changing to a distinctly sexual enjoyment. Whipple felt that most women when faced with this sensation hold back their sexual response to keep from wetting on their partners. Perry theorized that this may explain why up to 25% of American females never have orgasms – they’ve learned early that to avoid the embarrassment of urinating during sex, they have to hold back.  Women with welt-toned PC muscles are more likely to ejaculate and generally have better orgasms. Many women ejaculate easier after they’ve “primed the pump” with a few orgasms, others come on their first one. The common theme seems to be extreme arousal and direct G-spot and clitoral stimulation for an extended time.
It is common for writers of porn films and erotic books to make it appear that male ejaculations “shoot” or “spurt”. But Kinsey’s observations of hundreds of male ejaculators showed that in about 75% of men the semen merely exudes from the meatus or is propelled with so little force that the liquid is not carried more than a very small distance beyond the tip of the penis. In short, most males ooze rather than shoot Their semen doesn’t spurt, it dribbles out.  Similarly, if a woman expels fluid other than urine from her urethra, she shouldn’t have to make it squirt for it to qualify as ejaculation. The fact that many women don’t notice it since its not a powerful squirt contributes to the underreporting of female ejaculation. Other women, including one of my (Dave’s) partners, very strongly squirt large amounts of fluid while having powerful G-spot orgasms.  Helen Robinson reported that one of her research subjects was highly orgasmic and continued to ejaculate copiously with each orgasm and would ejaculate a quart of fluid in one session. A teaspoon of fluid is the more common amount, but a cupful is not uncommon.  At Dalhousie University professor Ed Belzer found varying concentrations of acid phosphatase in the women’s ejaculate. This chemical had previously been thought to be produced only by males, and in some courtrooms was accepted as evidence to support a rape charge. Belzer’s discovery proved that it wasn’t urine and also pointed out the existence of a genuine female prostate-like gland.  Not only are the fluids they produce chemically similar, the female prostate acts like the male prostate: when rhythmically prodded, it swells up and then discharges fluid through the urethra. To reach a male’s prostate gland, you have to reach in through his anus. In the female, you reach in • at virtually the same angle – through her vagina.
There has been debate whether the ejaculation originate from the bladder or from the urethral glands and ducts. Both may be the case in that a small amount of fluid may be released from the urethral glands and ducts in some instances and mixed in the urethra with a clear fluid that originates in the bladder.  Tests have been done where the bladder is drained of urine before the sexual stimualation and resulting ejaculation. Even though their bladders had been drained, they still expelled from 50 ml to 900 ml of fluid through the tube and into the catheter bag. The only reasonable conclusion would be that the fluid came from a combination of residual moisture in the walls of the bladder and from post draining kidney output.  Regardless, a number of tests have chemical analysis have been done on the fluid. Exactly what it is, isn’t known but there is a consistency of results that show a greatly reduced concentration of the two primary components of urine, urea and creatinine, in the expelled fluid.  As Unv of So Calf tests showed the results were clearly “out of the range” to be defined as urine.  But women’s sexuality still remains a mystery (as women do in other ways… as the exact source and exactly what the fluid is remains natures secret.
Male and Female Sex Organs Have Common Origin
An anatomy lesson may help understand why ejaculation is not as far fetched as it may seem. There really is not that much difference between male and female sex organs. In-vitro we all start out as female. If we get certain chemicals our development changes to male and our female organs dry up and we develop male.  Have you ever wondered what that line was on the back side of a penis? Or, have you ever looked? It is the remnants of a man’s vagina when he was a female early in gestation. Likewise the very sensitive spot on the back of a mans penis, where the foreskin attaches is the remnants of the female clitoris.  Sexual development in the womb it is not always perfect The most extreme problem is those whose gender does not match their sex organs (transsexuals). Since male and female are so similar, surgery can reassign one’s sex to match gender. Yes, it is done all the time, both male to female and less frequently female to male.  The same but much less dramatic natural event seems to occur in some women in which they develop small prostate like glands that are capable or producing ejaculation. Lab tests show the female ejac is very similar in composition to the prostate fluid within the male ejac (semen which comes from prostate mixed with sperm etc), but without the sperm in a female.

Why sex is a GOOD thing!

Sex is a beauty treatment. Scientific tests find that when women make love they produce amounts of the hormone estrogen, which makes hair shine and skin smooth.

Gentle, relaxed lovemaking reduces your chances of suffering 
dermatitis, skin rashes and blemishes. The sweat produced cleanses the pores
and makes your skin glow.

Lovemaking can burn up those calories you piled on during that 
romantic dinner.

Sex is one of the safest sports you can take up. It stretches and 
tones up just about every muscle in the body. It’s more enjoyable than
 swimming 20 laps, and you don’t need special sneakers!

Sex is an instant cure for mild depression. It releases endorphins
 into the bloodstream, producing a sense of euphoria and leaving you 
with a feeling of well-being.

The more sex you have, the more you will be offered. The sexually
 active body gives off greater quantities of chemicals called 
pheromones. These subtle sex perfumes drive the opposite sex crazy!

Sex is the safest tranquilizer in the world. IT IS 10 TIMES MORE
 EFFECTIVE THAN VALIUM.

Kissing each day will keep the dentist away. Kissing encourages 
saliva to wash food from the teeth and lowers the level of the acid that 
causes decay, preventing plaque build-up.

Sex actually relieves headaches. A lovemaking session can release 
the tension that restricts blood vessels in the brain.

A lot of lovemaking can unblock a stuffy nose. Sex is a natural
 antihistamine. It can help combat asthma and hay fever.

Romantic Recipes

ROMANCE RECIPES

Brownie Kisses – serves 12

1 package (1 pound 3.8 ounces) fudge brownie mix

1/4 cup water

1/2 cup vegetable oil 
2 eggs

1 1/4 cups vanilla milk chips

About 25 milk chocolate kisses with white chocolate stripes, unwrapped

1 1/2 tsp shortening

Heat oven to 350. Grease bottom only of springform pan, 9×3 inches. Stir brownie mix (dry), water, oil, eggs and 1 cup of the vanilla milk chips in medium bowl about 50 strokes with spoon or until well blended. Spread in pan. 
Bake 35 to 40 minutes or until toothpick inserted 2 inches from side of pan comes out clean or almost clean. Immediately place chocolate kisses around outside edge of brownie. Cool completely. Remove side of pan. 
Place remaining 1/4 cup vanilla milk chips and the shortening in resealable plastic sandwich bag; seal. Microwave on High about 30 seconds or until chips are melted. Knead chips until smooth. 
Cut small corner from bag. Drizzle melted chips over top of brownie. Cut into wedges.

Caviar Kisses
1 sm cucumber, scrubbed and-trimmed

1/3 cup sour cream

1 tsp dried dill weed 
Freshly ground black pepper-to taste

1 jar red salmon caviar 
Fresh dill sprigs

8 thin slices whole-wheat-bread 
Butter or margarine

Slice cucumber into 1/4-inch rounds. In a small bowl, combine sour cream, dried dill and pepper. 
Place one teaspoon of the sour cream mixture on each cucumber slice. 
Garnish each with about 1/2 tsp caviar and a dill sprig. 
Cut bread slices with heart-shaped cookie cutter. Toast and butter. 
Place cucumber slices in center of serving plate and surround with toast hearts.

Chocolate-dipped Strawberries – serves about 1 pound
1 pint fresh strawberries, washed and patted dry, stems intact, and thoroughly air-dried

8 ounces good-quality bittersweet chocolate, broken into chunks

1 tablespoon solid white vegetable shortening

1 ounce Grand Marnier liquor or fruited brandy
Instructions:
Prepare ahead: Wrap pieces of styrofoam in plastic wrap for fruit to rest and drip on. You can also use any firm-fleshed fruit, such as cantelope or orange halves.
Pour about 1 inch of water into bottom of a double-boiler and heat to hot but not simmering. Melt chocolate and shortening in top of double-boiler, stirring occasionally until completely melted and smooth. Remove top pot and place on a heat-safe tripod. Let cool for about 5 minutes. While chocolate cools a bit, carefully spear strawberries with toothpicks. Working quickly, swirl each strawberry gently in the chocolate about halfway up the fruit and place inverted on toothpicks into the styrofoam to cool and harden. When done, place in refrigerator to further set chocolate shell. When completely hardened, use a syringe to carefully inject a bit of the liquor into the center of each strawberry, being careful not to over-fill. Chocolate drippings can be stripped from plastic wrap and retained for other uses.

Chocolate Surprise
Blend together: 
1 1/2 cup plain flour

1 1/2 stick margarine

1 1/2 cup chopped nuts
Press into 9″ x 13″ pan. Bake for 15 minutes at 350 degrees. Cool
Cream together: 
1 cup powdered sugar 
8 oz package of cream cheese
Fold in 9 oz. defrosted Cool Whip. Spread onto the cooled pastry layer.

Mix well: 
1 large box of chocolate INSTANT pudding

3 1/2 cups milk
Spread on top of the second layer.
Spread a 9 oz. container of defrosted Cool Whip on top of the third layer and refrigerate.

Coconut Kisses – yields about 30 kisses
1 can sweetened condensed milk

2 egg yolks

1 tbsp butter or margarine

1 lb freshly grated coconut

1 tsp vanilla extract
Mix all ingredients well. Cook in heavy saucepan, stirring constantly, until you can see the bottom of the pan (same method as for Brigadiers). Pour onto a plate and let cool completely. Wait until the next day to form the balls. Lightly grease the palm of your hands and form small balls. Roll them in sugar and put in pretty paper cups.

Exotic Love Tea
1 cups water

1/4 cup honey

1 cup apple juice

1/4 teaspoon cinnamon

6 Celestial Seasonings Cranberry Cove Tea Bags
Bring water and juice to a boil. Stir in honey and cinnamon. Add the tea bags. Remove from heat. Let stand for one hour. Add 6 cups cold water Pour into glasses with ice. Sit back, sip and fall in love. 
Can be stored in the refrigerator for three days .

Hot Buttered Rum Mix – serves 12
2 sticks (8 ounces) unsalted butter, softened to room temperature and cut into pieces

1-1/3 cups (packed) brown sugar

1 teaspoon freshly grated nutmeg

1 teaspoon ground cinnamon

Tiny pinch of ground cloves

1 cup honey
For Each Serving: 
1 to 1-1/4 ounces rum 
Boiling water
Instructions:
Prepare the batter: In a large bowl, cream the butter with the brown sugar, nutmeg, cinnamon, cloves and honey. Continue to beat until the mixture is completely blended and somewhat fluffy. (The batter will keep several days if refrigerated, but allow it to return to room temperature before using.)
For each serving: Pour the rum into an 8-ounce porcelain coffee mug and fill the mug with boiling water to within an inch of the rim. Top with a large spoonful of the “batter” and serve. If you wish, stir the drink before serving; or leave this to the drinker.

Love Letters
125g rice flour

35g plain flour

155g granulated sugar

1 1/2 cups coconut milk (from 1 coconut)

2 eggs

2 egg yolks
Sift rice and plain flour into a mixing bowl. Add in sugar and slowly add the coconut milk. Stir until smooth then add the eggs and egg yolks. Whisk until well blended. Strain the batter. 
Lightly grease love letter moulds with a piece of muslin cloth dipped in oil. Heat mould over charcoal fire. 
When heated, place the moulds open over a bowl of batter and pour a ladelful of batter onto the mould. Close the mould tightly and bake over charcoal fire for about half a minute on each side. 
When golden in colour, remove and immediately fold into a quarter. Press lightly with a tin cover to level the surface. 
Cool and store in an air-tight container or tin.

Red Velvet Ice
2 pounds fresh cranberries

4 cups unsweetened apple juice (seperate into 2 cups each)

3/4 cup of sugar

1 teaspoon grated orange rind
Wash cranberries, combine with only 2 cups apple juice and sugar in a large pot. Cook on high/medium high until cranberries pop…about 8 minutes. Put through a food mill. Add remaining ingredients and chill. Put this mixture into an electric freezer or a hand cranked one. Read the directions on your freezer for the time or crank till it freezes. 
Serve frozen mixture in champagne glasses. It will work 🙂

Romantic Cheesecake
24 oz. cream cheese

4 eggs

2 1/4 c. + 2/3 c. granulated sugar

2 1/2 tsp vanilla extract

5 tsp lemon juice

1 tsp lemon peel, freshly grated

16 graham cracker squares (8 full rectangles OR 1 c. crumbs)

1/4 cup confectioners’ sugar

4 tbsp butter, melted

8 oz sour cream

6 drops green food coloring

1 tbsp cornstarch

10 oz strawberries, crushed

6 drops red food coloring 
Red silk flowers
Combine cream cheese, eggs, 1 3/4 cups granulated sugar, 1 1/2 tsp vanilla, lemon peel and 4 tsp lemon juice. Mix for 20 minutes at medium speed with electric mixer. Crush crackers and combine with confectioners’ sugar and melted butter. Press into bottom of 2-piece removable-bottom angel food cake pan to form crust. (Do not line sides of pan with crust.) Pour cheese mixture into pan on top of crust and bake 35-40 minutes in 350 degree oven. Cool for 30 minutes. 
Frost with sour cream which has been mixed with 1/2 cup granulated sugar, 1 teaspoon of vanilla extract and green food coloring. Return to 425 degree oven for 7-10 minutes. Chill in refrigerator at least 6 hours. At least 8 hours before cake is to be served, remove from pan. Combine cornstarch, 2/3 cup granulated sugar, 1 teaspoon lemon juice, red food coloring and crushed strawberries in a saucepan. Cook until thick and glossy, stirring constantly. 
Cool, pour on cake and chill in refrigerator until cake is to be served. Garnish the hole in the center with silk flowers.

Sweet Dreams Soup
1 small potato, peeled and chopped

2 tbsp butter

1 to 1 1/2 cups leek, chopped

2 large carrots, finely chopped

1/2 tsp grated fresh ginger or

1/8 tsp powdered; or

1/2 tsp curry

1/4 tsp thyme

1/8 tsp nutmeg

1/4 tsp salt

1/2 tsp pepper

1/2 stalk celery, chopped

2 1/2 cups milk 
Garnish: carrot curls and croutons
Boil the potato in 2 cups of water until tender, about 15 minutes. Drain, save the broth, and set the potato aside. 
Melt the butter in a soup pot on medium heat. Add the leek, half the carrots, the ginger, thyme, nutmeg, salt, and pepper. Saut for 5 minutes, stirring with a wooden spoon. 
Add the celery, the remaining carrots, the cooked potato, and the potato broth. Add 1 cup water, and stir. 
Bring to a boil, then reduce heat and simmer, covered, until the carrots are tender, about 20 minutes. 
In a blender or a bowl, blend or mash 2 cups of the soup with the milk until thick and silky smooth. Return the blended soup to the soup pot, and stir. 
Ladle into bowls and garnish.

Introducing Sex Toys into the Relationship.

I know so many people who have been dying to try sex toys, but have been too embarrassed to do anything about it. I’ve also heard from lots of people who already enjoy sex toys and would like to use them with their partners, but have been too reluctant to bring their toys to the bedroom for fear of offending their loved ones. And I’m sure there are others out there who have tried to share a favorite toy with a partner, but were unprepared for the negative reactions they may have received.

Whatever the case, it is possible to introduce sex toys into your relationship. In fact, we recommend it… for three reasons:

Sex Toys Feel Good. There’s no disputing that orgasms feel good. Sex toys help you have better, stronger, longer
orgasms, which is always a good thing.

Sex Toys are Fun. Most couples get bored with their sex lives at some point in their relationships. Sex toys add a
bit of zest to the relationship and keep things from getting dull. Using a sex toy together can bring you closer; sharing
new experiences together can be very intimate.

Sex Toys Make Sex Better. Many women have difficulty achieving orgasms unless they receive clitoral
stimulation, which can be difficult to manage during intercourse. Also, many men have trouble sustaining their
erections as long as they would like. Sex toys can help in both of those situations. They can also enhance a perfectly
good lovemaking session, adding just enough “oomph” to turn a great experience into an outstanding one.

While we think those arguments are compelling enough to convince most people, the reality is probably quite different. As much as we’d all like to think of ourselves as liberal, open-minded and adventurous people, everyone can be a little squeamish about new things. Your partner might need some convincing. While we hope Sam’s approach – bring it home and plunk it down – works as well for your partner as it did for me, it’s best to discuss your partner’s feelings about sex toys before springing anything new on them.

Lies, Myths and Misconceptions About Sex Toys Abound. Needless to say, most of them aren’t true. However, you should always treat your lover’s concerns seriously – especially when it comes to sex. Be prepared to deal with just about anything, including feelings of inadequacy, emotional discomfort and ignorance. You probably won’t know your lover’s sex toy reservations until you talk to him or her, but you can anticipate a few responses to some common attitudes about sex toys.

Sex toys are for perverts, weirdos, sluts or freaks. All kinds of people use sex toys, including people most would consider perfectly normal. Yes, perverts, weirdoes, sluts and freaks use sex toys, but so do doctors, lawyers, housewives, teachers, accountants, bus drivers, secretaries… and just about anyone else you can think of. Using a sex toy doesn’t make you “weird.” It jtgl makes you have an orgasm! If your partner has this fear, suggest that he or she talk to his or her friends about it, or do some Internet research on the subject. Your lover might be surprised by how common sex toy usage can be.

Sex toys are just for masturbation. While sex toys are commonly used for solo sex, many couples enjoy using sex toys together, regardless of their gender or sexual orientation. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with your relationship – quite the opposite. Usually the kinds of people who are comfortable trying new things together are open-minded, intimate, comfortable and trusting. Using a sex toy together is a good way to reaffirm the strength of your relationship. If your lover has this concern, try giving him or her a book on using sex toys to add excitement to your partnership. There’re lots of them!

Your partner will feel inadequate if you start using a sex toy.
Many people express concern that bringing a sex toy into their relationship will hurt their partner’s feelings. It’s understandable: a huge, vibrating penis that brings you to climax every time? Who wouldn’t be jealous? Seriously, a sex toy can give you an orgasm, but it can’t cuddle with you afterwards. Sex toys will never replace live humans. If your lover has this fear, be sensitive and stroke his or her ego a little bit. As with most relationship issues, good communication can go a long way to solving the problem.

Using sex toys can be physically dangerous.
Absolutely untrue! In fact, sex toys can have very positive effects on your sexual health. For example, menopausal women can use dildos to maintain vaginal tone, staving off incontinence and other sexual health issues. Many doctors and therapists recommend sex toys to women who have trouble reaching orgasm. And finally, a healthy relationship with your body is beneficial to your overall health. Using sex toys heightens your awareness of your body and its functions, making you more alert to abnormalities such as bumps, lumps or abrasions. If your partner is worried about physical dangers, sit down and surf the Net together. Any sexual or general health site can assuage his or her fears.

If you use sex toys too much, you won’t have an orgasm with your partner.
We hear that one all the time! Yes, the earthshaking orgasms produced by a vibrator can be psychologically addictive, but they don’t take the place of a real person. Think about it: most people have been using their hands to masturbate since they -were young, yet they usually prefer partner sex to solo sex, don’t they? If your partner is afraid you’ll replace him or her with your battery-powered pal, promise him or her that you’ll keep your sex life varied: try different positions, new toys, role playing and fantasy, both in partner sex and solo sex. Boredom and repetition often cause bed death.

If your relationship is solid, there’s no reason why you should need a sex toy.
As we’ve already suggested, using a sex toy with your lover can actually strengthen your relationship. You need to have a certain amount of closeness to share this intimate new experience together. Using a sex toy can be a good affirmation of that closeness. If your lover doesn’t think you need a sex toy to brighten up your sex life, assure him or her that you don’t need a sex toy either, you’d just like to try one. Again, your local bookstore has many books on sexual intimacy.

Buying sex toys can be really embarrassing.
We agree, which is one of the reasons we’ve created this nifty, anonymous place to buy them! Seriously, if you aren’t comfortable going to a sex shop and picking out a dildo, you have lots of other options. You and your partner can order from a catalog or a website … may we suggest For Your Pleasure Parties?
If you’ve addressed each of these misconceptions with your partner and he or she is still apprehensive about using a sex toy with you, take it slow, be patient and think creatively. Don’t press the issue or you might get an incontrovertible “no”! Flatter your partner, show him or her how much you enjoy his or her body, and make the most of your sexual time together. It’s possible he or she isn’t ready for that level of intimacy yet, but with time and effort, your lover might change his or her mind. Let your partner watch you masturbate with a sex toy. It may cause some giggles at first, but it might also break the ice and relieve your embarrassed partner of any squeamish thoughts about sex toys. You might also try buying a book or watching a video together -your partner might be embarrassed to admit he or she doesn’t know how sex toys work; “instructional” materials can often alleviate your partner’s functional concerns.

We also recommend attending or hosting a sex toy party with your partner. … think Tupperware party with a different kind of plastic product. These parties can be a fun, painless way to introduce sex toys into your life.

Once you are able to bring the toy into the relationship, remember a few basic commonsense tips:

Start slow. Save the double dong or strap-on dildo for future encounters. Try a nice, simple rocket vibrator. Once your
sweetie is used to the vibe, you can trade up.
Be gentle. Your partner may like it on the rough side, but hold back a little the first few times you play with toys.
There’s plenty of time to accelerate!
Talk to your partner. He or she may have agreed to use the toy, but that doesn’t mean your lover is 100% comfortable
with the idea. Talk your way through the experience. Ask your partner if what you are doing together feels good. If it
doesn’t, try something else.
Use lubrication. Sex toys need lots of lube to slip and slide the way they should. The last thing your girlfriend needs to
worry about is whether she’s wet enough to enjoy herself. Similarly, you don’t want to risk injury to male or female
partners by inserting something into a dry orifice. Keep a bottle of lube handy and use it.
Be flexible. The toy you’ve selected might turn out to be totally wrong for your sexual personalities. That’s okay. Put it
aside and try something different.
Be patient. Your partner may agree to play with the toy, and then change his or her mind midway through the
experience. That’s his or her prerogative. Be patient and try again another time. It might take awhile, but it will be
worth the wait.

The important thing to remember is that your relationship is a partnership, which implies that both of you are in this together. You make the decision together; you select the toy together. If your lover feels as though he or she can trust you, things will go much better for you and your toy. Sharing the experience goes a long way to promoting that trust.

5 Ways to Turn Him on!

1.  Get Dressed. It might not seem like much, but rather than being in your sweats or pajamas, make an effort to actually be dressed. You don’t have to dress to the nines, or be terribly provocative, as long as you are dressed in a way that is flattering and enjoyable to both of you.

2.  Make contact. A light trailing touch across the back, neck, arm or thigh as you pass by will awaken his body, and let him know that you are interested and available.

3.  Reminisce about good times…especially sexy good times. A knowing smile and a gaze that travels over his body (especially south of the border), and back to his eyes, will redirect his focus in no time at all!

4.  Make dinner special. Whether that means fixing his favorite meal, having a kids-free dinner, serving up dinner in something a little naughty, or sneaking off to have a picnic, make it special.

5.  Make a sexy purchase you know he’d be into. Then “forget” to put it away. Leave it someplace he’ll see as he’s getting changed in the evening.

His G-spot!

Curl HIS Toes!
by Christina Myers
The following article is expressly designed for
“For Your Pleasure, Inc.” and its consultants.
Read this months’ article to be enlightened on a
most intense physical pleasure that can keep HIM
healthy!
Gentlemen, the prostate is a very erogenous for
all men so don’t miss out on its pleasures
because you think the joys of the rectum and all
its’ sensitive nerve endings are reserved for gay
men only. Stimulating the prostate is also a
healthy approach to avoiding cancer and other
problems that occur later in life since it
replenishes blood flow to the area and encourages
good cell growth. Traditionally, doctors would
massage their patients’ prostates regularly to cure
or prevent disease but nowadays, doctors just
check it and treat it after there is a problem. A
woman must check her breasts regularly to be
able to detect any abnormalities. Men should
regularly check the prostate. Prostate problems
are not normal at any age and a regular massage
can prevent most difficulties.
A simple technique:
A gentle upward stroking of the perineum (taint) may do the trick and could be rather enjoyable. A c-
ring that is worn to include the scrotum could also be fun and healthy but the most direct stimulation
of the prostate involves inserting either a toy or a finger into the rectum.
For the virgin search effort, we’ll stick with a finger with a trimmed and smooth nail and you could
use a condom or tickler sleeve over the finger. Lubricate the finger and the anus thoroughly with one
of the (silicone) lubricants we carry for smooth moves with no painful or uncomfortable friction. Initial
insertion should always be slow and gentle to relax the sphincter muscles that line the entrance to
the anal canal. It may be very relaxing as well as stimulating to perform fellatio or stroke the penis of
the receiving partner during insertion. Once the finger reaches about three or four inches inside,
gently roll the finger towards the belly in a ‘come hither’ motion. You may feel a walnut sized area
that is firmer than the surrounding tissues. You’ll know you’ve hit the right spot with his moan of
approval. Communication is very important. He must be able to tell his partner if that is the correct
area, if it’s too much pressure or not enough and so on. Keep stroking or just apply pressure to bring
him to the most fantastic and powerful climax.
Now that you’ve opened his eyes to a whole new world, let’s see what some toys can do.
If you apply constant pressure to the prostate, you may be able to prolong ejaculation. Leaving a butt
plug inside during intercourse or oral stimulation will achieve this result. The sperm from the testes
mix together with the semen in the prostate mere moments before ejaculation. If there is pressure on
the prostate he cannot orgasm (or at least will prolong his activities). Release that pressure and

KABOOM! The results are a very intense climax.

Any toy being used for anal play should have no sharp edges and a flared base of some type to

prevent muscle movement from “sucking” the toy into the anal cavity. So stick with the items we offer.
Anything that is inserted into the anus should never get near the vagina as it will cause a serious
infection for her. Keep everything clean and available for a quick change by inserting the toy or finger
into a condom first.
A butt plug can be inserted to apply pressure to his prostate with no hands. It can just remain there
during the lovemaking or you can give him a thrill by tapping, swirling or shifting the plug. Anal beads
running across the prostate will give him a different type of stimulation. Insert the beads slowly and
seductively as a foreplay method. As the prostate swells with stimulation, the bump, bump, bump
across that sensitive area will have him reeling. Remove the beads slowly, right before or during
orgasm to make him feel like he’s having several mini orgasms right before the big geyser blows. No
matter what form the toy takes, it should never be ripped from the anus!
Anal pleasers come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Some toys add vibration too. It’s all a matter of
preference and exploring the many varieties could be quite a lifting project that introduces him to a
whole new world of ecstasy that keeps his prostate well!

How to Talk with your kids about…

How to Talk with

Your Kids About Sex

Whether you like it or not, you are a sexual role model for the young people in your life. Their eager minds seek to understand the world around them. When the issues are not articulated for them, they learn through the subtleties, like body language and watching the interactions of those around them. And even worse, they learn from the Internet, television and through conversations with their friends. If you don’t step and let them know they are safe to ask you anything – you are leaving them in the hands of strangers and a life of learning by way of their own mistakes.

Opened the door and let them know you will not be angry or embarrass them for asking questions.  At what age you open this door really depends upon your child. Some kids are very inquisitive at an early age while others just need to know they can ask if the need arises. Remind them every once in a while that they can ask you anything. Sometimes they may be on the edge of a precarious situation or thinking about something they heard and your gentle nudge may remind them that they are not alone.

When are kids having sex? It depends upon the kids. Some kids start very early. Some wait until marriage. Lots of kids have explicit conversations about sex. Studies show that nearly half of all high school aged kids are engaging in sexual activity. Of those who are sexually active, 2/3 have had more than one partner. Good, honest, sweet, smart, wonderful kids will be genuinely interested in exploring sex. Be ready for it.

Another reason you should want to be their main resource is that the world has ways of compartmentalize sex. We do this through subtle attitudes (“boys will be boys”, “women should be sexy and look hot – but not be too sexual”) and by way of the media (sex sells). And those are just a couple of examples. These ideas do not always coincide with what young people are taught at home and/or their place of worship. It can become very difficult for a young person to understand how sex can affect self-esteem, relationships, and health. If they are taught that only dirty or nasty people have sex, then how do they justify that the same acts can bond a relationship or be the source of a new life? These are complex issues that cannot be over looked.

Part of the problem is that many young people believe the solid definition of sex is intercourse. People (young and old) do not recognize that sex is a way of life, not a particular act. Sex can be the energy exchanged while looking at each other, eating a meal together (with out the TV on) or lying on the lawn and looking at the stars with your lover. But sex also incorporates many acts, like heavy petting, oral sex, intercourse and anal sex. Many young people will have oral sex with multiple partners but still identify as a virgin. (And not understanding that oral sex can leave them vulnerable to STDs.) It’s important for you to help them develop a clear understanding of what sex is and what kinds of behaviors may require safer sex materials and birth control.

Some people are dismayed that schools are or are not teaching sexual health. You may be upset over the content of what the schools may be teaching. Personally I feel like it would be great if the school could find a curriculum that suited everyone, but realistically I don’t think that is possible. Every family has their own culture, religion, ethics and moral standards. Ultimately it’s always up to you to teach the children in your family.

I highly recommend having an age appropriate sexuality book on your books shelves at home or simply give the books to your kids. I recommend Deal with It! A Whole New Approach to Your Body, Brain, and Life as a gURL and S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-To-Know Progressive Sexuality Guide to Get You Through High School and College. (You can find them on amazon.com.)

They are both cute, hip, age appropriate books that don’t over look how sexuality is inclusive of emotions, relationships, bliss, excitement, fears, anxiety, spirituality, anatomy and lots of other nitty gritty facts and details young people need to know but would never think to ask. Good stuff. Get a set for your home library today!